Back on topic - I've decided to answer two sets of questions this time (and probably more to come in later days!) Mostly I just need things to write about in my blog, since my "Write 30 minutes a day" challenge is failing miserably, but I want it to fail less, but some days you need a break from your depressing, all over the place, terribly written book. :^) I picked these two sets since they relate to things I've been doing lately.
Are you majoring in your health?
1. What do you do to start your morning off right?
Coffee! Does that count? No? Well, I like to eat breakfast every day so I don't get hungry while I'm working. And it's usually a pretty healthy breakfast. I get out of bed, which I think is a major win on any day.
2. What do you consider your healthiest habit?
I am becoming this amazing flosser. Flossing is one of the good habits I have been building this year (and last year), and it's really taking off! Now I don't like it when I don't floss because my teeth feel so nice when I floss. Why did it take more 30+ years to figure this out? And it's not even hard.
3. What do you consider your least healthy habit?
Smoking. I know, I know it's really bad for me. And it's not an all the time habit. It's really a social habit that I happen to do on a semi-regular basis, but socially. I only do it at home, and I don't have to smoke everyday, and I've stopped for weeks or a month at a time. It's just hard when you live with a smoker, and it's a thing you do together - it's bonding time.
4. What type of exercise do you really love?
Taking walks with Pokemon Go! Like seriously, no joke. I am a brainy person, so exercise can be so boring. And since I don't have a buddy to work out with on any regular basis, having something to play while I take walks is great! I take an hour plus walk at least once a week, with smaller ones during the week. And before where I had to agonize over the minutes left until I met my 30 minutes minimum, now I think about how much daylight I have left, or things I don't have to do that day so I can stay out walking longer.
5. How do you make time to feel good physically?
I have been working it into my daily habits more. I have a check sheet of things to do each day to build better habits, and one of those things is exercise. So I either go to gym after work, or if I don't want to do that, I may walk to grab lunch or Starbucks, or just walk around outside for 30 minutes. On weekend I definitely take time to go Pokemon hunting.
6. How do you clear your head during the day?
I usually pull the stopper out of my ear and let all of the hot air float come out. Wait, that's not what this question is asking. I like to listen to music. Driving to and from work with the right playlist is very helpful. Even sometimes when I am at my desk and I just need a moment to clear my head, I'll focus on a song or two. I also sometimes just leave the office to get fresh air or Starbucks when I need to clear my head.
7. What little things make you happiest during the week?
When I get Starbucks - is it sad how much I like coffee? When I hear a song I really love and it hits the spot, emotionally. When someone I am fond of messages me or pops by to chat - especially when the conversations are just random or silly. I like when someone makes me literally laugh out loud because of an IM or email - it's good to have laughter in your life. That first moment when I am home at the end of the day and finally settled into my "me time" knowing I have quietness all to myself. Hmmm, what other "little" things are there? I feel like I have to make a "little death" joke here - those make me happy. Oooh, and singing makes me the happiest, any of those little moments alone when I can bust something out, whether something rockin', some Disney tunes, or some Adele. I do politely keep the singing in the shower to a before 6pm time, since people have to sleep.This next steps looks like questions about relationship partners. Since I am putting out good vibes for romance, and swiping through Bumble bees when not actively hating the idea of dating apps, I figure it's a good time to think about what I could be looking for.
1. What are the qualities of a good relationship?
Honesty, trust, vulnerability, fun, communication, attraction, maturity, shared Netflix account
2. What values do you want your partner to share with you?
3. In what ways do you want your relationship to resemble your parents' (or not)?
How about not at all.
4. What qualities do you look for in a partner?
Kind, funny, smart enough to hang, doesn't mind me being the smarter one, we can actually carry on a conversation. I think ideally someone that I have enough in common with that we can have common ground, but enough different so that we can compliment each other. For example, I tend to be really attracted to really social extroverts (or sometimes introverts that can really bring it in a group setting, or sometimes are just drinking the extrovert juice, re booze). There's something really sexy about a guy that just gets all energized when talking in a group. I'm talking telling stories, cracking jokes, infectious laughter. Damn! Also, something I read a lot about INFJs (my Myers Briggs type) is that we really want to be understood. I am not an average person - I can be odd, I see things differently, I have a unique personality, and often get lost in thought. I really appreciate people who pick up on these things, and even if they don't understand everything (there's a LOT to understand - still waters run deep), I appreciate the wanting to know. It's funny, my mom is really good at this thing where she can tell something bothered me, or that I am lost in thought on something just from like my facial expression or the tone of my sighs - she's like a really great Dayna whisperer. And I know other people who can kind of do that too sometimes. It would actually be really great to have a partner who can pick up on these little non-verbal communications. That way, he can make me talk about things when otherwise I may just not address things because I am conflict adverse. If two conflict adverse people got married, would they live happily ever after, or would they randomly explode one day? Inquiring minds want to know!
5. How do you like to spend your downtime? Which of those experiences do you want to share with a partner?
I like alone/quiet time, but I also like to be intellectually entertained. I feel like I would do more - see more things, do more activities - if I wasn't alone all the time. It's just kind of sad to go out to a restaurant or check out some museum thing alone. It's especially not the best to travel too far alone as a woman. Maybe someone should check come Saturday morning that I made it home alive from my Oakland concert trip. Can I have someone to go to concerts with? He doesn't even have to like my music - I'd make sure they were tamer concerts.
6. How much of your time do you think you should spend with your partner?
Just the right amount of time. Duh. Idk, I guess it depends on how needy they are and how not annoyed that makes me. And what their job is, and whether you live together or not.
7. What things do you still need to have that are your own?
I am a pretty introverted introvert, so definitely alone time. That doesn't have to mean being literally alone. That's the dream - having someone you can be with and it still refreshes me like being alone. I would still need my girly time with my BFF. Sometimes you just need to gossip about boys and girls, and watch girly princess movies, and paint nails. And I definitely need to have control of the audio in the car, whether or not I am driving, and whether or not it's my car. I of course may kindly oblige others to allow them to listen to something they want, but that's at my discretion. I'm kind like that.
8. What is one thing about a past relationship you want to make sure you don't have in the next one?
Well, since I really don't have anything to say here, I guess in general just being more vulnerable. I am slow to trust and to open up. I am an enigma wrapped in a mystery. And I'm a parfait (OMG that word's hard to spell!) - not an onion, as they smell bad - because I have lots of layers. I think with all my friendships and familyships I've had to work on being more open. But it works out well, mostly. So that's good. I have good taste in friends.
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